"Simping"TOXICCC

I am sure we all know the semi new phrase "simping". When you look up that word so many different definitions come up; I believe our generation takes this saying to mean you are weak or looked down on by "the boys" if you seem to show to much affection for the person you care about. I did an Instagram poll and asked my close friends to get an assortment of different ways to explain what this phrase means. It seems that the common response to the word "simping" from most women is that it is a man being shamed for treating a women with respect, showing her attention, and emotion publicly.

The problem with this word is that it normalizes toxic masculinity. A man is stereotypically supposed to be big and strong. Coming up with these phrases is supposed to feed into that stereotype of being tough. Putting such emphasis on how "simping" for someone you care about is considered weak is invalidating that rare connection those people have found. In todays world finding someone you genuinely love to be around (maybe its a friend or a relationship) is really hard to do. With all these distractions of social media and the normalized "ghosting" behavior it is truly rare to find a genuine connection between 2 people. If someone is joking about "simping" or making fun of someone for showing their person love, attention, and respect I would question first off why do they care you're happy? Second, how are they going to treat someone they care about if they are making fun of a respectable behavior?

I guess I will never understand why it becomes trends on Tik Tok or Instagram to mock how a man treats someone he is in love with. If you care about another human being thats a good thing and you should value the rare real connection you have made.